Thanks for checking us out! The mens dungeon parties at the SFCitadel are a great place to meet friends current and future, as well as getting an opportunity to play in what our friend Richard Hunter, the owner of Mr.S. Leathers, calls a "World Class Dungeon". The SFCitadel is a community dungeon, and exists to be a kinky home for the members of all of the diverse kinky communities of the bay area... not just the mens community. But there are times when the SFCitadel is reserved just for men... and that's what these pages are all about! Want to know what's in The SFCitadel? Just CLICK HERE!
First off, remember that all those hot, forced violent scenes that you've jerked off to in videos DO NOT HAPPEN in a community dungeon! Well, sometimes they do, but not without everyone giving informed consent in advance, and letting the party hosts know what you have in mind. We like creative intense play, but we also like to know what's going on! Mutual consent and negotiated scenes are an important part of responsible BDSM dungeon play.
If you've never been to the SFCitadel, or any community dungeon, you've probably got some questions, and we've tried to answer them on the page below and on links you can follow from this page. If you still have questions after you've read everything, there are e-mail links at the bottom of the page.
The rest of the month you have to put on a civilized appearance. The SFCitadel Mens Parties are your chance to let that dirty, slutty, pig out who exists inside... and let him play! Take advantage of it!
Orientation
Doors open at 8, and at 8:30 a special orientation for those new to dungeon play is always given by an experienced member of our leather community. This is your chance to get a tour of our dungeon and ask any questions you may have about BDSM or public play. Remember, no question is stupid nor will the Master leading the orientation ever make fun of you for asking ANY question, so ask!
You may also like to read more about the way players are expected to act in a community dungeon. It's all about common sense and respect, actually. But here's a detailed page for you to read by CLICKING HERE.
What To Wear
Wear any masculine clothes you like… or wear nothing (We like nudity!). Wear your leather. Wear your rubber. Wear your uniform. Wear gear. Bring the fetish outfits you’re not comfortable wearing on the street. The nastier the better. No special outfits just yet? Jocks are good. Or you could even just take off your shirt and wear just your jeans. Free lockers are available while they last (but you must provide your own lock, just like at your gym), so be kinky, be slutty, be who you really are under your street clothes!
About Membership
The SFCitadel is a private membership club, so a membership is required for admittance. This gives you legal protection to be a kinky pervert playing with other kinky perverts in a private space to which you belong. You’ll be given a set of rules to read and will sign a form that attests that you’ve read it and understand the importance of what you’ve signed. The cost is $10 per year. Party admittance is $25, which goes to pay the rent, keep the lights on, and buy the food for the party. The SFCitadel is a labor of love by a large group of volunteers.
Volunteering (AKA "No Pervert Left Behind")
If you’re on a limited income or unemployed and find the cost of admittance too steep, we encourage you to volunteer. We try not to ever turn someone away because of an inability to pay, but you might not be able to pick and choose what you do. You can help us with party set up, clean up, or as a locker attendant. Volunteers play for free, but have to contact us in advance to be assigned a volunteer task. And if it’s your first time, you do have to pay the $10 membership fee.
Conduct:
On a serious note, we have volunteer dungeon monitors (trained by the Dungeon Monitors Association) walking the dungeon during our parties watching the scenes and making sure that everyone is playing safe. We are a dungeon that enforces the use of safe words. Every submissive or slave in a scene is expected to know the house safe words SAFEWORD and RED. If either word is heard by the top during play the scene stops. Period. No exceptions. Dungeon Monitors WILL enforce this. (Note: “Ouch” is NOT a safe word!)
If you’re new to dungeon play we encourage you to come… and just watch for now if that’s where your comfort level is. But you do need to be aware of the rules involving voyeurs. You stay at a respectful distance… don’t crowd the players… and don’t under ANY circumstances interrupt them or try to talk to them. In fact, you shouldn’t be talking to anyone else either anywhere near where a scene is taking place!
This isn’t a sex club where piling on is considered a fun thing to do. The Master or top is in charge of his scene, and unless you receive a direct invitation from him, hands off!
That was just a quick overview. If you're coming to an SFCitadel event, you're expected to know the rules of the dungeon... and you can read them all by clicking RIGHT HERE.
Upcoming Events
A calendar of upcoming Citadel Mens events, events of The15 Association, and other calendars of kinky activities can be seen by CLICKING HERE..
A Note About Safer Sex
Just so that you know, when we invite you to join us for "sick, twisted, and perverted fun," we're talking about kinky BDSM and not unsafe sex. As long as it's consensual you can bite nipples, flog backs, spill hot wax on chests and stomachs, torture cock and balls, and more....but thou shalt not ever put your weenie up someones ass without wrapping it first like a pig in a blanket with a condom. That's right - The SFCitadel is a condom zone for all fucking. NO fucking is allowed without the use of condoms, and that includes monogamous partners and fluid bond partners.
The same goes for putting fists up butts - it's totally cool to fist at The SFCitadel... but it can't happen without a glove... and we even provide the gloves. How easy is that? Gloves are a must!
And while we're on the subject, if you're playing with dildos and putting them up more than one butt in a night, condoms are required. It's just plain common sense.
We're saying this in as lighthearted a way as possible, but this stuff is important. We're serious about the health and well being of our members. The condoms and lube that STOP AIDS kindly provides us with are there to be used! NO BAREBACKING. We want you to play safe so that you can be back to play again... and again... and again...and again. Get the idea?
A Word About MRSA
IIn case you've been hiding under a rock and haven't heard, a 'superbug' is in our midst. MRSA, a staph infection that is resistant to most antibiotics and can cause serious complications, is out there. Fortunately, it's simple to avoid. We ask everyone at our events to wash their hands thoroughly (at least 20 seconds vigorously with soap and warm water) after each scene, and to wipe down the dungeon furniture you've used with the bleach solution available at the supply stations throughout the dungeon. If you're using a sling, please wipe it down both before and after play. To find out more about MRSA, great information is available by CLICKING HERE.
No Poppers In The Dungeon
Poppers, Butyl Nitrate, Amyl Nitrate. You know what it is. We know that there are guys who have been using poppers for years without any problems. We also know they're readily available over the counter in stores and online. We're not telling you anything new in stating that it's use as an inhaled substance is actually illegal, so please don't bring poppers into the Citadel. Help us preserve your play space and our mens parties by leaving them at home!
It should go without saying that if it's illegal to use on the street, it's illegal to use in the dungeon. Safe BDSM play is clear headed BDSM play!
Location
Our address is 1277 Mission Street, one door north of 9th Street. A single story UNMARKED gray building. Just two blocks east of the Civic Center BART/MUNI station, in the heart of SOMA, San Francisco’s leather neighborhood. Easy street parking is usually available, but as with any urban area at night, you should be aware of the potential for a car break-in and leave NOTHING in sight within your car. If you’d like safe, secure parking, it’s available at the Holiday Inn parking garage around the corner on 8th Street between Market and Mission.
If You're Coming From Out Of Town
And would like additional info about restaurants, accomodations and where the leather shops are in the neighborhood CLICK HERE.
Still Have Questions?
Here's who you can respectfully ask:
Men’s Party Host Master Bob… sfomaster@yahoo.com
Assistant Fuego… Fuegobdsm@yahoo.com
SF Citadel Men’s Party Volunteer Coordinator Alex… brochlex@comcast.net
Men's E-mail List
Would you like to be added to the Citadel Mens Yahoo Group? It's a low voume "announce" list that has info about Citadel mens parties and other events of interest sent directly to your e-mail. Just send a note to Jonathan at milpitas_guy@yahoo.com . You'll then receive an invitation to join. Respond to it and you're in!!!
Phone: 415.626.1746
Email: sfomaster@yahoo.com