We like to think of the SFCitadel as a friendly and safe place to play. This happens because we observe sensible rules. Here's the list of our house rules. They're subject to change at any time. Everyone is responsible for reading, knowing, and playing according to the rules that are distributed at each play party. Note that sponsored parties (such as those of the 15 Association and the Men of Discipline) may have their own rules.

The basic principle is this: act like responsible adults. Respect players during scenes, be sensible with your toys and those belonging to others, protect yourself (and others, if necessary), and respect the playing surfaces and the equipment. Our rules are strictly enforced by our dungeon monitors (DMs)

Appropriate dress is expected. Being a mens party, attire must always be masculine in nature. Leather is encouraged, as is other masculine fetish attire or nudity. Any form of drag or female attire is never appropriate. (The SFCitadel hosts other parties for those who enjoy such wear.)

FTM (Female to Male) transexual men who dress and act in a manner in accordance to our parties are always welcome and are to be treated with the same respect as all other players. No male ID cards are needed as long as a person can pass as a male, and self identifies as male.

We reserve the right to refuse entrance to anyone or ask anyone to leave if he appears intoxicated, potentially harmful to himself or others, ignores dungeon rules, or engages in unsafe, exploitive or non-consensual behavior of any kind.

If you have any questions or concerns about these rules, how they are being observed, or how they are being enforced, speak to a dungeon monitor. SF Citadel DMs wear distinctive, identifying armbands while on duty.

You are expected to know these rules when you come to play. As they say in court... ignorance of the law is No Excuse!!!

• No audio recording, videotaping, or photography inside. No cell phones beyond the locker area. Please silence your cell phones while they are in your locker.
• Do not engage in any illegal activities in the SF Citadel. No drugs or alcohol inside.
• Use of the word “safeword” is a call for assistance from outside your scene; the DMs & other experienced players will come to your aid when they hear it. Do not misuse or abuse this serious call for help.
• Do not interrupt ongoing scenes. If you have safety or health concerns about a scene in progress, talk to a DM.
• Respect the space. Clean up after your play (the SF Citadel provides alcohol & bleach sprays and paper towels) and help us keep the social area tidy. It is advisable to clean the slings both before and after you play.
• Condoms and gloves are provided and we expect players to make use of them. Condoms are mandatory for anal sex, and highly recommended for oral sex and penetrative toys, and any potential exposure to body fluids. Plastic wrap is available for protection during blood play.
• Water only (no food or other drink) in the downstairs play spaces.
• Do not touch another person or their property without their permission.
• NO MEANS NO! Aggressive cruising will not be tolerated. If you feel someone is bothering you and doesn’t respect your wishes, let the DM or hosts know ASAP.
• Urine, scat, fire, and breath control play are not permitted.
• Get permission from the DM before beginning any singletail whip, takedown, loud, unusual, disruptive, or potentially messy play scenes.
• Get permission from the DMs and cover the carpeting before any sort of blood play or wax play. Please cover the carpet under your slings. Bring your own tarps! (Big garbage bags work well.)

• When doing wax play- no unattended flames. This means when you set a candle down, extinguish it. Keep all wax on your tarp (clean off before leaving it).
• Help us keep the noise level down. No conversation in the lower level of the dungeon. Do not loudly crack (“go sonic” with) your singletail.
• No locks are allowed on any cages. Cages must be openable with no keys or any other tools.
• Do not sit or leave your toys on the play equipment.
• You cannot “reserve” equipment.
• No jacking off (masturbating when not in scene)!
• We reserve the right to refuse entrance to anyone or ask anyone to leave.